I wrote this a few years ago now. I'd been watching the Olympic hockey game in 2002 in a bar. Peter Gzowski had died and his memory was right there in fromt of us. He would have liked that we won gold.
And I no longer live in Dartmouth, NS. I escaped and now live in Vancouver again. This place i love.
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Like so many others, I was not born in Canada. I was born in the picturesque, thousand-year-old town of Salisbury, in the southern English county of Wiltshire. It has a magnificent Gothic cathedral whose spire is -- was – falling down. Perhaps they have fixed it now. And is not far from Stonehenge. It used to be called New Sarum, so I’m told, and was built next to Old Sarum, which had been inhabited since the days of the builders of Stonehenge. It is old, if anything is.
But I have never really been there. I was not raised by my mother but was taken in at the ripe old age of ten days by foster parents, living in Sevenoaks in Kent. It was wartime and such things were not uncommon. Sevenoaks is in what was known as ‘bomb alley’, the route of the rocket bombs launched in Holland, with the anti-aircraft guns pounding away at all hours to try to knock them out of the skies before they fell on London. Apparently, it was all right if they fell on us.
Needless to say, I was a nervous child. I chewed the ends of my pigtails and sucked my handkerchief when no one was looking. Until I left England, at the age of eight, we lived on rationing. They say it was severe and I suppose that an allotment of one ounce of sugar per person per week counts as ‘severe’. It was the only system I had ever known and if I was deprived of the necessities of life, I was blissfully unaware of it, having, it seemed to me, everything I needed, a family, a brother, a dad who carried me on his shoulders and wonderful Christmases. How is that deprivation? No-one thought to explain to me either what a ration was or the need of it; it was a way of life and the only one I had ever known. I did at least know that everyone was required to have them; there were no special cases that I knew of. If I was deprived, so was everyone else and it was not noticeable. The grown-ups never spoke of such things within earshot of children and I am inclined now to think that there is merit in such a system.
Some time after the war, perhaps in 1948, we moved to Wythenshawe, a suburb of the great Industrial Revolution city of Manchester, with its ship canal that had been the aorta of Britain for the export of woollen goods from the ‘dark, Satanic mills’. What did I know of all that? To me, Manchester meant Manchester United football team, having a red and white muffler, filling in the football pools for Pop, since we two children had as much chance of being right as anyone, being within driving distance of the Blackpool Illuminations, walks along country lanes every Sunday after church, being forbidden to play in the rhododendron bushes because of the black, oily streaks that resulted from touching the dark leaves, Father Christmas at Lewis’s Department Store – and at several other big stores as well, of course, which was how I determined that, lovable as he was, Father Christmas was a fake -- and a field for playing Cowboys and Indians behind the ‘semi-detached’ house.
We lived with the sight of bombed buildings. I thought nothing of them; they were simply there, the way of things, as ‘normal’ as sharing one can of Spam between five people and thinking ourselves well off for a lump of coal for the fireplace instead of the usual peat. There were trips to the zoo, with its wonderful elephants. There were rides for the children in a wooden seat high on the elephant’s back. One of the best-cherished childhood delights was feeding Bassett’s Licorice Allsorts, one at a time, to the huge beasts, holding the treat carefully between childish fingers while the two-ton giant took it with exceeding delicacy by the prehensile ‘lips’ of the end of its trunk, its touch warm, soft and gentle. I have loved the great behemoths to this day. I actually remember nothing else about the zoo, but it is enough.
Discovering Peter Gzowski
I look out the window of my tenth-floor apartment in beautiful downtown Dartmouth and I hate the place.
It is not the first time in my life that the place I was living in has engendered that uncertain, vaguely distressing sense of not-belonging, but that is another story. I am a Vancouverite, although it took me nearly fifty years to know that about myself. And I have been just about everywhere on the northern half of the continent of North America, not to mention across it by air, train and car, and around it by water. Which makes me a little odd.
I have not seen it all, not by a long shot, but I have seen more of it than most, ‘been there done that’ more often than many and lived to tell about it. Peter Gzowski died last month and it struck me that I was one of a tiny minority of Canadians who never listened to “Morningside”, his long-running CBC morning radio show. That oversight is possibly due to the simple fact that I have not owned a radio in over twenty years, although I am not sure why that should be. Years ago, I put it on my mental list of things to buy before the next Ice Age and it is still there. For some reason, I know his voice for all that; he has seeped into my marrow anyway. I have tried to make amends to Peter’s memory by reading his books and finding out what that phenomenon was — is — all about. As far as I can see, and from what I heard on the programs on CBC television after his death, he was like a bootlace that kept us all together, tied the sides of this sixty-eight hundred-kilometre-wide boot — or hockey skate, or mukluk – together. I never knew him and I miss him anyway. We humans are funny like that.
I watched the memorial special that celebrated his achievements and they were all there. Peter Mansbridge kicked it off, the Bare Naked Ladies sang for us, Vicky Gabereau read some letters, Susan Aglukark sang “O, Canada” and Graham Greene was a face in the audience. I think I saw Dame Judy Dench; I hope I did. I like Dame Judy; I should like to think that she likes us.
”Us”. I have not always been able to say that. I have always lacked a sense of family but I realized something that night. My family was right there, in an auditorium at the University of Toronto, talking about one of our own. “Our own.” My, that sounds nice.
I was not born here. I was born in England and came here as a child, brought here with no say in the matter, brought into a strange place with strange sounds and strange children. I was lonely, lost and miserable and I hated it. It has taken fifty years for this land to work its brutal magic, wooing me not with promises but with challenges, not with comfortable softness but with harsh, forbidding and gorgeous reality. I resisted for half a century. The siren song of this country is patient and inexorable. It needs to be; it is tough love.
And now the circle is complete. Yesterday, February 24, 2002, when the Canadian men’s hockey team won the gold after a fifty-year odyssey of its own, when I counted out the last seconds of the third period along with everyone else in a Halifax bar, whooping and hollering like a five-star maniac, madly waving the little maple leaf flag I got at Canada Day celebrations last year, I could no longer pretend that I was not a Canadian. I conceded defeat. I was home.
On the national news, Ben Chin couldn’t keep a straight face, Ian Hanomansing showed us the revellers on Robson Street in Vancouver and, from Kandahar, Afghanistan, we saw Canadian soldiers leaping about for sheer joy. In Ottawa, Toronto and Montreal, the jubilant crowds were splashed with red and white. And I was proud. Fifty years ago, in 1952, the Edmonton Mercurys won the last gold medal and a scrawny waif with big, blue, Irish eyes, pigtails and a lost look got off an immigrant ship. Today, the gold medal and I are both home. Yesterday, I saw the look on Wayne Gretzky’s face, the clear message that, wherever he is, he is ‘one of us’. I am ‘one of us’ and it is a good feeling.
Think I’m gonna to buy me a Roots hat.
Judith